3 Reasons Window Shopping Dating Keeps You Single


If you have trouble finding the time to date in real life, you probably have an online dating profile.  I know I do…actually I have several.  Probably some I can’t even remember because they just never produced anything and I just forgot about them.

I have used Plenty of Fish, OK Cupid, Match, E Harmony, Zoosk, and some others I’m more embarrassed of.  But the point is…I get it.  I know how it works.  On every site there’s a “window shopping” aspect.  You sort through a bunch of pictures and click yes or no.  This…my dear…is damaging our ability to date!

We no longer get to know the person like we should.  We just decide that if the picture he/she has on this account isn’t 100% satisfactory then it’s no use.  I mean seriously can you imagine how many photos they rejected to get to that one?  And I mean if they aren’t photogenic, how will they look on my Facebook when I post pictures of us through Instagram?  Psh…please.

I’m guilty of it…we all are.  The idea that you can pick out the perfect match visually, on a little phone, from a picture sent over wi-fi and uploaded into oblivion.  The idea that somehow, that mole on Jane Doe’s forehead makes her a bad cook, or untrustworthy, or not worth your time.  Get over it…it’s irrelevant.

Here’s 3 reasons you’re missing top lover material!

1.  Some people just take bad pictures….

They can’t help it.  It’s some kind of freak of nature or the coloring in their skin or the fact that anytime a camera points their way…they panic.  Unless the person completely and utterly repulses you, at least check out their profile.  They may just have something that strikes you and then, they don’t look as unappealing.

2.  Maybe they just don’t care what you think and are a total hottie in person…

This actually happened to me.  I met a guy on POF and wasn’t at all attracted to his picture.  In it he was sweaty and I don’t know if it was a bad angle or what but he looked like a complete weirdo.  I think he was trying to play the “I’m trendy and hip and don’t care what you think” card.  However, when he messaged me it was funny and we liked the same music so I agreed to meet up and just hang out at friends.  Turned out to be a total cutie!  An “unemployed, lives at home with mom without a car” cutie…ha ha but a cutie nonetheless!

3.  You cannot judge a book by it’s cover…

I know this is a classic…but it really is true.  I date someone for almost 4 years that I wasn’t even remotely attracted to when we first met.  He was 100% the OPPOSITE of my type and who I had been dating but he grew on me.  He treated me like a Queen and for 4 years, we were in love and it was wonderful.  We grew apart obviously but for those 4 years…I got to experience something great.  Don’t miss out on your chance for fun and romance just because they aren’t the picture perfect guy/gal.

All it all…it’s pretty crappy of us to just click a button to judge each other based on one picture.  So the next time you look at someone’s face…really pay attention and don’t pick out the mistakes…pick out what you like.  Check out their profile and give them a shot.  You may find something you never knew you needed!!!

Any stories of you guys passing over a gem?


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2 comments on 3 Reasons Window Shopping Dating Keeps You Single

  1. Megan Walker says:

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  2. Megan Walker says:

    Great tips. I’m totally guilty of judging a book by it’s cover. I have to remind myself to REIGN IN THE JUDGEMENT.

    I wasn’t remotely attracted to my high school boyfriend, but I changed my mind after he was there for me when my grandfather died. Once I went to college, we broke up, but if I would have missed out on a great person had I not given him a chance.